It is often the fear of hurting the adoptive parents that is the reason that many do not look for answers. Many feel that this could harm the relationship with the adopted parents. However in most cases the bond with the adoptive parents is very strong and most at the time of adoption understand that the day will arrive when the child will grow up and need answers to their background.
It is essential however that the search is carried out sympathetically and with discretion. We also offer advice on the possible consequences of a search and difficult changes that could arise. It is very important that the search is carried out with the individuals understanding that the answers they get may not turn out to be the ones they craved. We can also offer support and guidance at the time of the reunion and even accompany the individual if they wish.
It is also important to understand that searching for a birth parent can be very simple but in some cases very time consuming. We will try to give you an indication of the complexity of the case on our first meeting or discussion.
It is common for an individual to want to know and understand their roots and their past.
Children who are adopted often grow up without this knowledge which can leave the feeling that something is missing despite having a loving environment with their adopted parents.
Often questions such as:
who do I look like? and why was I put up for adoption? Become so strong that the need for answers becomes essential.
If you would like an initial informal chat then please contact us on free phone 08-0800 99 999 and we will try to offer you initial assistance in whatever way we can.